This is a good way to start off a new week Change your habits, change your lifestyle!
Be inspired! ❤
This is a good way to start off a new week Change your habits, change your lifestyle!
Be inspired! ❤
Put your gloves on, Ladies!
For some of us, we’ve gone into boxing matches to fight for our men, and we weren’t taking anything from ANYONE. “He’s mine not yours, case closed”.
THEN there’s those like me that have NEVER fought over a man in their life! Through my couple of months of being married though, I learned that the enemy wanted my husband. I learned I had two choices: let him have him, or learn to fight.
Note: if you currently don’t have a man, be patient your time will soon come where you’ll have to do the same thing.
How does he want your man?
For one, the husband is the head of the household (1 Corinthians 11:3). The order of positions according to the Bible is: God is over Christ, Christ is over man, and man is over his wife. If the enemy can break down the head of the household, the entire home can rapidly fall apart. It’s just like the body. If one major part begins to fail, and DOESN’T get fixed, the rest of the body begins to break down. He’s well aware the importance of your man, and tries to use it to his advantage.
NOTE: Never does your husband being the head of the household qualify you to be abused, nor does it diminish the significance of you OR your role in the relationship. Actually, your importance is compared to that of the love Christ has for His church. (Ephesians 5:25)
He’s also wanted just because he’s YOUR significant other. Your enemy already doesn’t like you! He’ll attack any and everything you love. With relationships, the unity can spark a powerful force that could completely bring the enemy to his knees, especially if that force is solely driven by God. So, your intimacy is important with your significant other. The enemy seeks to attack the intimacy within the relationship, to break the bond and tool around with its structure. If he knows he can distract your man from God, which is the sole connection within your relationship, then he knows he can break apart the unity and there is when things crumbles.
SO WHAT DO I DO?
#1: Pick your battles
The first thing that I learned in my marriage was to pick my battles. I’ve always been quick to firmly state my opinion about any and everything, and I ALWAYS needed to have the last word. I learned that sometimes I’m not always right, and that when I AM right, that I don’t ALWAYS have to say it. One of my favorite quotes from the movie, “War Room” is, “Sometimes being submissive means ducking, so God can hit your husband.” Trust me, if he’s wrong, God will make sure to put him in line. Remember, the enemy’s goal is to break up the unity. No unity, no power.
#2: Intercede for him
Your primary job is to intercede for him in prayer. Daily he faces things that cannot be explained, spiritually and in the natural. Not to say you don’t, but referring to what I said earlier, if the major part fails, the rest begins to fall apart. Also, if you have children, you have to begin thinking in terms of your WHOLE family. You have to protect your house by any means necessary, through the power tool that is accessible to you, which is prayer. There are somethings that you can’t do anything about, but you can ALWAYS pray, that CANNOT be taken away. Cover him in fervent prayer, bombard Heaven with your requests for him, and watch God as He performs miracles.
#3: Encourage him
One of your man’s biggest fans should DEFINITELY be you. You should be that girlfriend in high school that wore the same jersey as her boyfriend, cheering him on as he darts across the football field scoring that touchdown. On his lowest days, you need to encourage him. Help build him up, because if you fall you’re going to need him. Another things the enemy preys on is self-esteem. If he senses insecurities and uncertainties, that begins to peak his interest, and he then pounces. He doesn’t want us to reach our full potential so with our men, if he keeps him from growing in Christ, he’ll kill the power source. Once that connection breaks down, that not only affects him, but it also affects you. So, cheer him on when he’s up, build him up when he’s down.
#4: Love him:
“Love covers a multitude of sin” (1 Peter 4:8). Finally, love is key to battling the enemy for him. Pure love gravitates you both to each other in a way that no other thing can do. Satan does not know how to love anything but himself. He can’t fathom the fact that we can be selfless towards someone else, but we can! Love him in the bad as well as the good. Give yourself selflessly and listen as God gives you strategic instructions as it pertains to him. Get in your warfare mode, and get ready to fight for your man.
You’re driving headed to work. This morning you’re late, but other than that it’s a typical day: coffee, kids crossing the street for school, other cars, stoplights, and time. You approach the stoplight and wait for your chance to beat the other car beside you to the next light. You look in the window of the car next to you…only to see there’s nobody in it. You sense the strangeness of it, but don’t worry much. The light turns green and you tear off going 60 mph. You’re picking up speed, when all of a sudden you immediately swerve pass a school bus that has lost control and flipped over twice. Barely escaping with your life, you park your car and dart to the school bus. Between the screams and cries of bystanders, you look in the bus for survivors…not a soul in the entire bus. “What have I done, what I have I done?!” you reach for your phone and proceed to call 911 when you begin to make out the screams and cries. You learn that it’s not just about the bus. “My husband is gone!”…”My wife just vanished!!”…..”WHERE ARE MY KIDS?!” As the terror grows more and more intense you look up to the sky, only to see groups and groups of people ascending up to the sky. With that last sight, you’re left standing in the middle of the busy highway with other cries of confusion and terror, and stunned bystanders.
I remember my grandma use to say all the time that she NEVER wanted to be here when the rapture took place. For me though, I just had a rough time fathoming that I could be playing out on the trampoline and could be “taken up” into the sky. I learned more in my walk with Christ, that it was more than just being in the sky with Jesus, but it was about the fact that I would be taken away from the horrible catastrophe that would take place had I stayed here.
Time has a real bad tendency of creeping up on us before we know it. If we were more alert to the things that are soon to come, we’d find out that we waste so much time on unless things and people. If we really weigh the circumstances, we’d make better choices. Jesus is coming back. Now, we all have heard that “Jesus is coming back! be ready!” I’ve heard it from my grandma, she heard it from her mom, and honey the list goes on and on. However, the thing is is that they weren’t wrong, but because NO MAN knows the time or date of Jesus’ return, they only knew to be ready.
If Jesus came back right this moment, could you say that you’d be ready? Some people fear death, not because of the fact they’re about to die, but rather because the first thing that comes out of their mouth is what?….”I’m not ready”. Scripture tell us to WATCH as well as pray. (Luke 21:36)
I recall a time when I went to a women’s convenience and was not living right, only going to church as a walking zombie, spiritually sleep. I was there, but I was not, until I briefly tuned into the sermon. She positioned herself at the podium, put her hand of the top of it and said, “Honey, don’t let death catch you out of the will of God.” Chills fled my body as she repeated it again, “Honey, don’t let death catch you out of the will of God.” It struck a cord with me because what if on my way home I would have collided with another vehicle, instantly ending my life, while I was in broken relationship with Christ.
We make the mistake of taking these days for granted. Constantly strolling through the day, performing our daily routines, and not even giving it thought that some of us haven’t consulted our life line, Jesus all day.
The Psalmist in Psalms 90:12 asked to be taught to number our days so we can get a heart of wisdom. Although we thought when we were younger that we’d live forever, the days of people are vert few, and we must be wise with that time. Stop giving your precious time to things that don’t matter.
It was asked once, “Why doesn’t anybody know when Christ is coming back?” No, exact answer is given in the Bible, but if we knew Jesus was coming back January 12th 2025 at 6:00 p.m, most people would cut up, act crazy and reckless up until that very point, and then repent. Now, I know what you’re thinking, “You mean Jesus would actually take them back after all that?” Hebrews 8:12 says that “For I will be merciful toward their iniquities, and I will remember their sins no more.”
This is the same mercy that God had on us when He decided to send His son to rid the world of those transgressions. It is not God’s desire that any of us perish, but that we have life, and it more abundantly. That’s why we must be woke to the tricks and plans of the enemy to distract us from the fact the Jesus IS returning. When we’re so consumed with the things of this world, we overlook God and the enemy knows that’s our life line, and if he can get away from the glue that puts us together, the one who knows us, inside and out, he can dominate us. It’s then that we could miss the moment. Press forward, stay woke, time is creeping. You will never know. Don’t let death or TIME catch you out of the will of God.
35 Heaven and earth will pass away, but My words will by no means pass away. 36 “But of that day and hour no one knows, not even the angels of heaven, but My Father only. 37 But as the days of Noah were, so also will the coming of the Son of Man be. 38 For as in the days before the flood, they were eating and drinking, marrying and giving in marriage, until the day that Noah entered the ark, 39 and did not know until the flood came and took them all away, so also will the coming of the Son of Man be. 40 Then two men will be in the field: one will be taken and the other left. 41 Two women will be grinding at the mill: one will be taken and the other left. 42 Watch therefore, for you do not know what hour your Lord is coming.
It was hard for me to believe that someone could hate me. I mean not to say that I was perfect in the least, but I always carried myself in a way that was very sensitive to the feelings of others. Although I learned early that people will still treat you bad anyway, I still had no idea that someone could hate me BEFORE I WAS EVEN BORN….
Before YOUR parents even conceived you, you were loved…AND HATED.
You were a mess up in a plot of your enemy, Satan. The strength and power that God gave you long before you were thought about, became Doom’s Day for him. You weren’t a issue for him when you were a lover of your own desires. Slowly dying in the cares of this world, but the moment you became a mouth piece for God (Yes, the way you live your life can be a mouthpiece to others for God), you automatically became a problem for Satan. He doesn’t want you to reach your full potential in Christ because once that happens, then comes your anointing, your faith increase, blessing, joy and most of all being able to resist him, because he knows then that he has to flee.
Submit to God, resist the Devil and he will flee from you.
It was that scripture that helped me realize that my submission to God was what was necessary for me to withstand the plans of Satan for life. Here are four ways to submit to God, and resist the Devil.
Prayer has, for some reason or another, been the secondary answer when it comes to finding out the will of God, handling situations that we’re ALREADY deep into or just for basic things. Once you’ve unsuccessfully tried everything else, prayer then becomes this amazing, unheard of solution in the mist of core battle with the enemy. It’s in your praying that God reveals Satan plan OR His answer to whatever you’re inquiring about or headed into. Developing a CONSISTENT prayer life with God, will build your lifeline when it comes to silencing Satan. When you look at different people in the Bible, they used prayer to make their requests known to God. Hannah, in the book of 1 Samuel 1:9-11, prayed desperately for a son. In return not ONLY did God bless her with a son, but Samuel grew up to be an amazing prophet. One who’s prophetic record was spotless. Prayer has also been used to intercede on someone or a group’s behalf. Christians in Acts 4:29-30 prayed FERVENTLY for Peter while he was in prison. Even Jesus Himself prayed! When He was on the cross, Romans soldiers were taunting Him, saying “If you’re the real Messiah, get yourself down!”, Jesus prayed…to His Father for mercy.” Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do.” (Luke 23:34) If you’re new at developing a prayer life, begin writing out specific things to target in prayer, so you’re not just saying things all over the place. Start with just 5 minutes. If you can do longer, GO FOR IT because as you get more and more into your prayer mode, you’re see that 5 minutes just won’t be enough time to be in the Lord’s presence.
Our flesh tends to get a little out of control, or sometimes we just want a little more closeness with God, & denying ourselves & seeking things spiritual will help. So what constitutes as “fasting”? I heard my pastor say, “Fasting is giving up anything that you’ve made your God.” Anything that takes our attention away from God, can be considered something to fast from. For me, social media. I sometimes come home from work, shower, eat and then I’m on my phone for the night….did you hear ANYTHING about God??? Nope, was not reading a Bible plan! Some fasts do require no eating. Whether it’s missing one meal, or all three. Others require just re framing from TV or social media. Once you start getting more connected with God, allow Him to deal with you spiritually to determine what parts in your life need the most flesh killing. Then go on your fast. In your fasting time pray, read, listen to gospel music, focus on nothing but God. Keep in mind that fasting is considered a private thing and does not need to be broadcast. Take a look at Matthew 6:16-18. Also, married ladies take a look a 1 Corinthians 7:5
*Tip for your fast*: No matter what fast you are led to go on, you will be tempted. What do you do? KEEP GOING! Don’t let the enemy make you quit your fast because you slip up and at a chip or saw something on Facebook! KEEP GOING! God will honor your commitment if it’s sincere.
John 14:15 says, “If you love me, you’ll keep my commandments.” The third way to maintaining your strength with God, and resistance to the Devil is that you MUST BE OBEDIENT TO GOD. When Samuel finally realized that it was God who had been calling him, he instantly was obedient and ready to answer the request of the Lord, “Here I am, Lord. Your servant, ready to listen.” (1 Samuel 3:10) When Ruth was faithful to her mother-in-law, Naomi, by not returning home to her homeland of other gods, God blessed her ( Ruth 1:16). Because she was obedient and worshiped the same God Naomi did, the true God, He blessed her to run into Boaz, who would later redeem Naomi’s family. It was also because of this faithfulness and obedience that she bore a son, who would start the bloodline for King David…and then later on Jesus Christ. Because Mary was obedient to God’s plan for her to bore a son, she gave birth to the same Jesus that would later go to the cross for the sins of the world. Obeying God may lead you on journeys that you will probably be afraid of, and sometimes will require you have to step out on faith. However, know that when you trust and obey God, he’ll prepare the way for you, making every cricket road straight. “Be still, and know I am God.” ( Psalm 46:10)
If you half do this walk with Christ, you will NEVER reach the full potential that He has for you, and you will ALWAYS be exposed to Satan . If you dibble and dabble with God loosely, don’t ever expect anything from Him. “A unstable man should not expect anything from God ( James 1:6-8). As a believer, we will walk through some difficult moment, however, if we remain faithful to the call, God will exalt us in due season. Your enemy’s plan is to distract you. Throw things in your way to get you side tracked, soon you’ll feel like God is so far from you. Keep pressing. Focus on the matter at hand. This is a fixed battle. We as the people of God have already won this battle, and Satan knows that. He knows that his time is limited, so he needs to take as many people with him as he can. Remain faithful, and consistent with God; pray, fast, seek His face, read, worship, praise in those hard times and OBEY the things that God instructs you to do, keeping in mind that “All things work together for the good of those who love the Lord, and are called according to His purpose.” (Romans 8:28)
– W.A.V.E ❤
*sigh* okay… this is one of those subjects that,believe it or not, some churches DO NOT want to discuss. It’s almost like they rejoice in the marriage, but completely block out the fact that about 80-85% of marriages had a dating period. Now, if you’re lucky to dodge the first date, getting-to-know-you phase then that’s totally great. However, if you have to start from the top like the majority that’s OKAY TOO.
I think one of the most important things to remember is that God loved you FIRST, and no matter who finds you and how you feel about them, you can never love them, and vise versa, the way God does. Sometimes in relationships we tend to put God on the back burner, and unintentionally devote all our time into our new significant other. THAT’S A NO NO. We can’t be forgetful of the one who’s was there when we were home alone.
I LOVE GOD, YOU DON’T LOVE GOD????
W.A.V.E listen…being in a relationship with someone who DOES NOT feel the same way you do about who you consider to be your savior makes the relationship EXTREMELY difficult. Can it be done? Yes. Is it easy? No! Because they may not understand some of the things that God requires of you, especially as time progresses and you guys become closer. Most couples as time goes on tend to become hot & heavy, but if it’s your intention to save yourself for your husband, some fellows have a hard time restraining themselves. Especially if they are human like you, and feel those things.
In my previous relationship when I rededicated my life back to Christ, it made my relationship very difficult. He couldn’t understand the requirements that God had for me that (I didn’t know would be better for me in the long run). I was compromising EVERYTHING. There was even a time when he said “I feel like you’re choosing God over me.” Ladies…YOU’RE SUPPOSE TO! A man can’t have a clue how to love you without FIRST loving Christ.
Dating and being saved can definitely be done. But it has to be a thing of patience, not pushing. You have to understand that EVERYTHING is in God’s timing. The moment we start rushing things, the moment we mess up something that could have been great. We don’t have to rush and find him.
So breathe…(inhale…exhale) lol and enjoy the blessings and time you spend with God. The more time you spend in the arms of God, the more likely He will allow the right man to step in.
4 Love suffers long and is kind; love does not envy; love does not parade itself, is not puffed up; 5 does not behave rudely, does not seek its own, is not provoked, thinks no evil; 6 does not rejoice in iniquity, but rejoices in the truth; 7 bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.
1 Corinthians 13:4-7
Be blessed! ❤
But you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.
1 Peter 2:9
It’s amazing how you’re reminded of God’s favor on you when you’re a kid, and how he uses the most simple things to give you an insight. My mind goes back to P.E in elementary school. There use to be this group of girls, ran by my own cousin, who use to walk their laps instead of running them. No big deal, right? WRONG! Apparently, it was this thing that if you didn’t walk with them you couldn’t be apart of the crew anymore. With my many insecurities, I needed to be among other people to detract the attention off of me.
Well, this one particular day I just really wanted to finish laps and make a dash for the basketball court, so I suggested that we go quick and get out laps out of the way. As time progressed and I got uneasy, my cousin stop everybody and said, “Ashley, if you want to go and get all sweaty that’s your business, but if you leave us you can’t come back to this group anymore.” (That was a big threat in elementary). After weighting my options I figured playing ball was much more worth it so I shrugged, said “Bye!” and I left them in the dust as I ran off like an Olympic track star. What was so amazing was after I ran off, I didn’t even think about the fact that I needed them to make me feel like something. I just wanted to do something different. From that day on, I never had a fear to stand out again.
I really didn’t don on this again until 2 years ago when I was trying to figure out who I was in Christ and whether or not I was even important. When this came back to my remembrance, I heard God speak and say, “I have called you to be different, and that’s okay.” I believe that if we truly trust God and just stand out from the crowd, we’ll be able to fully see Him manifest in our lives. Because everybody is not meant to go where we’re called to go, neither do some want to. Some people are content with where they are. (Walking their laps.) Blending in with the crowd only makes people over look that group.
Believe it or not, sometimes we look for something different. Who wants to go to same restaurant ALL THE TIME? who wants to do the same thing ALL THE TIME? I love how my jobs always requires flexibility and different things. The kids I work with don’t always want to do the crafts or sports. Sometimes they like when a new game introduced. God wants more of us, He wants us to stand out to be a light for someone else. You can’t find light covered up and hidden. Light doesn’t blend it, it shines for everyone to see. Let yourself shine! Go run those laps!
The Lord is my light & salvation, whom shall I fear? Whom shall I be afraid?
As you go about your day today, remember that you have a light. A light that shines in the darkest places. You have NOTHING to be afraid of. Not the news things to come or those things that always intimate you.