Put your gloves on, Ladies!
For some of us, we’ve gone into boxing matches to fight for our men, and we weren’t taking anything from ANYONE. “He’s mine not yours, case closed”.
THEN there’s those like me that have NEVER fought over a man in their life! Through my couple of months of being married though, I learned that the enemy wanted my husband. I learned I had two choices: let him have him, or learn to fight.
Note: if you currently don’t have a man, be patient your time will soon come where you’ll have to do the same thing.
How does he want your man?
For one, the husband is the head of the household (1 Corinthians 11:3). The order of positions according to the Bible is: God is over Christ, Christ is over man, and man is over his wife. If the enemy can break down the head of the household, the entire home can rapidly fall apart. It’s just like the body. If one major part begins to fail, and DOESN’T get fixed, the rest of the body begins to break down. He’s well aware the importance of your man, and tries to use it to his advantage.
NOTE: Never does your husband being the head of the household qualify you to be abused, nor does it diminish the significance of you OR your role in the relationship. Actually, your importance is compared to that of the love Christ has for His church. (Ephesians 5:25)
He’s also wanted just because he’s YOUR significant other. Your enemy already doesn’t like you! He’ll attack any and everything you love. With relationships, the unity can spark a powerful force that could completely bring the enemy to his knees, especially if that force is solely driven by God. So, your intimacy is important with your significant other. The enemy seeks to attack the intimacy within the relationship, to break the bond and tool around with its structure. If he knows he can distract your man from God, which is the sole connection within your relationship, then he knows he can break apart the unity and there is when things crumbles.
SO WHAT DO I DO?
#1: Pick your battles
The first thing that I learned in my marriage was to pick my battles. I’ve always been quick to firmly state my opinion about any and everything, and I ALWAYS needed to have the last word. I learned that sometimes I’m not always right, and that when I AM right, that I don’t ALWAYS have to say it. One of my favorite quotes from the movie, “War Room” is, “Sometimes being submissive means ducking, so God can hit your husband.” Trust me, if he’s wrong, God will make sure to put him in line. Remember, the enemy’s goal is to break up the unity. No unity, no power.
#2: Intercede for him
Your primary job is to intercede for him in prayer. Daily he faces things that cannot be explained, spiritually and in the natural. Not to say you don’t, but referring to what I said earlier, if the major part fails, the rest begins to fall apart. Also, if you have children, you have to begin thinking in terms of your WHOLE family. You have to protect your house by any means necessary, through the power tool that is accessible to you, which is prayer. There are somethings that you can’t do anything about, but you can ALWAYS pray, that CANNOT be taken away. Cover him in fervent prayer, bombard Heaven with your requests for him, and watch God as He performs miracles.
#3: Encourage him
One of your man’s biggest fans should DEFINITELY be you. You should be that girlfriend in high school that wore the same jersey as her boyfriend, cheering him on as he darts across the football field scoring that touchdown. On his lowest days, you need to encourage him. Help build him up, because if you fall you’re going to need him. Another things the enemy preys on is self-esteem. If he senses insecurities and uncertainties, that begins to peak his interest, and he then pounces. He doesn’t want us to reach our full potential so with our men, if he keeps him from growing in Christ, he’ll kill the power source. Once that connection breaks down, that not only affects him, but it also affects you. So, cheer him on when he’s up, build him up when he’s down.
#4: Love him:
“Love covers a multitude of sin” (1 Peter 4:8). Finally, love is key to battling the enemy for him. Pure love gravitates you both to each other in a way that no other thing can do. Satan does not know how to love anything but himself. He can’t fathom the fact that we can be selfless towards someone else, but we can! Love him in the bad as well as the good. Give yourself selflessly and listen as God gives you strategic instructions as it pertains to him. Get in your warfare mode, and get ready to fight for your man.